Sunday 24 February 2013

Learnings from Life...

Grandmother says... Carrots, Eggs, or Coffee; "Which are you?"

A young woman went to her grandmother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose.

Her grandmother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs and the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her granddaughter, she asked, "Tell me what do you see?"

"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.

She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they got soft.She then asked her to take an egg and break it.

After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg.

Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The granddaughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma. The granddaughter then asked. "What's the point,grandmother?"

Her grandmother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity--boiling water--but each reacted differently.

The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.

The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water they had changed the water.

"Which are you?" she asked her granddaughter.

"When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?"

Think of this: Which am I?

Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity, do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff?

Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.

When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate to another level?

---AUTHOR UNKNOWN —

Thursday 21 February 2013

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Friday 15 February 2013

Encounter with Soldiers (part-I)



Last summer I had a chance to question, to discuss with some Soldiers about what and how they feel about their life. While debate is there, about the morality and trustworthiness of Polices, Para-Military Forces in India, what is their opinion regarding such issues. Some facts and answers came from their side too, as reinforcement for their working methods justifications. Here is a gist of those discussions…..
A) A personnel asked me, “Sirji, how you will feel, if you are suppose to work against crimes n criminals, live along with them, 24x7 whole year, minimum touch of your family members, but yet your work is not appraised properly??? Don’t you think that it will affect your psyche….??? If yes, than it affects us too, as we are also a part of your society. The same weak man, who have the burden of his family on his shoulders. Yes, I know that it does not gives me the license to kill, to behave in rude manner, to become corrupt but what to do as I am a weak man and I also have fear of being killed by criminals, being behaved rudely by unruly peoples and die as a poor in this competitive world, as I am also a victim elsewhere today/tomorrow through corruption, bribery by other departments. The only difference is that, they can do it secretly but we have to do the same in public. We all know, how corrupted Health Organizations are, yet we treat them wisely, but why people treat us with hatred, though we work for their safety??? Because, we are prone and vulnerable to counter-attacked by Legal Machinery very easily with evidences.”
B) A Police prompted to my questions that day, he replied, “Sir, you see this public. They believe we have enormous power in our hands. We have the strength of weapons, legal system etc. But the fact is rather different from the scenario. We have weapon, but don’t have the power to use it till the reason exceeds it limits, in some cases till our death. We have to take written orders to do so. Tell me Sir, which criminal will wait till that point before he starts firing upon us. But yet we have to wait. You may say, if we would be given power to fire at will, we may misuse it. But don’t you feel Sir for each kind of power, there is uses and misuses also. People used to yell upon us, saying that you have firearm, why don’t you use it then? But in case we use it, they will be the very same people who start criticizing us. Saying that, we misused it !!! On the top of it, we have media, Departmental Inquiries to cross-check our innocence beyond reasonable doubt. Don’t you find it funny? We have vested authorities given by Law of the Land, but tell me how many people in our country know the Criminal Laws roughly, forget about vividly. Not even half. So, as you know our criminal laws are weak in many aspects for some heinous crimes, criminals used to get away with a very minimum penalty or imprisonment. But to common people, it seems that we are easy/ soft on criminals, we have taken bribes, or we are corrupted that’s why we released them/acquitted them just like that. But tell me Sir, can we use the Law as per our will??? But who will understand?? People just used to notice that, we are so weak to detain/arrest criminals and convict them, they just overlook that we are also making a foe in that same process, and when this foe slays us openly in public place, nobody comes to save/help us, and nobody wants to give testimony. They feel that, we are police so we should help ourselves. So, don’t you think it’s good to be good with criminals then, at least they won’t backbite? I still remember, a few cases when I had made strong cases for rape victims, arrested and forwarded the criminals in court for a fair trial. But astonishingly, I find that the accused is ready marry the victim, or the accused has given a small sum of money and the victim became a hostile witness or she was happy to withdraw her testimony. Though this is may be due to internal/external pressure on her, but I had ended up with a newly made enemy, and a laughing stock for all. Same for murder, robbery cases, nobody saw anything but everyone wants justice. If we are unable to prevent the occurrences of crimes, than we are a big failure. Whereas, there are some clear legal provisions for common public to act as a guardians of life & property until police reaches there. Police force does not come in time, is a popular national saying. But tell me, what is the ratio of common public to a single policeman, regardless the physical distances? Moreover the ratio won’t be correct for a single time, because many of us are always busy in doing VIP and other kind of special duty. Denial of which is another form of non-cooperation to public.”


Today, I am going to give a pause here. Many more chats are there in mind, but will write about it later. What I personally feel is that, we are so selfish that, often we love to put the responsibility of a bad incident on others shoulders, naming it differently. In that process Armed forces are the most soft targets, because they are our 1st line of defence, and whose own sayings are often rarely heard. Take care. Wait for its part II.

Sunday 10 February 2013

Learnings from Kung-Fu Panda I movie...

    One of my favourite animation movie of all-time...Not just because of it's "close to reality" touch & fun, entertainment it gives..Perhaps, because of a few lines told by the character's of that movie.Those who have seen it, do you still remember that.......

1) Once that tortoise master told Panda, "you are so concerned with whats and what will be. There is an ancient Chinese saying that, Yesterday is HISTORY, Tomorrow is MYSTERY, but Today is a GIFT, that's why it is called PRESENT."

2) Once that same tortoise master told master Shi-Fu that, "There are no good or bad news, there are nothing as accidents if we believe that everything happens for a reason. My old friend the Panda will never fulfill his destiny nor you are your's, until you let go the illusion of control. Look at this tree Shi-Fu, I cannot make it to blossom when it suits me nor I can make it bear fruit before its time.

At that time Shi-Fu replied, "But there are things we can control. I can control when the fruit can fall. I can control where to plant the seed. That is no illusion master.

Then that Tortoise master replied back, "ah yes, but no matter what you do that seed will grow to be the same tree again. You may wish for an apple or an orange........To make something special, you have to believe it special."    


                 So friends, if you are free than go for watching this movie..you will get more than what you will expect from a movie...there are issues inspiring lives...take care.                                                     

Sunday 3 February 2013

The Toss

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